Why autis­tic people book escorts

How does it actually feel… to be autistic.

The follow­ing text — why autis­tic people book escorts — was sent to me on my own initia­tive by one of my favorite customers. I was very pleased to receive it and have only short­ened it a little or corrected spelling mistakes. I hope you will forgive me for this — thank you for your efforts and private insights!

I’ve been follow­ing Mia on Twitter/X for a few years now. Not only is she a stunning woman, but she also has a very big heart for all animals. Several times a year there are fundrais­ing campaigns with very tempt­ing prizes, where all proceeds are donated to a good cause. That’s how I first became aware of Mia. I remem­ber that I delib­er­ately chose not to enter the lottery with the main prize (a meeting with Mia). This may sound strange at first, but there is a simple expla­na­tion for this:

I am autistic.

Meeting strangers is a bit of a challenge for me in my every­day life. I need routines, find it diffi­cult to be sponta­neous, often don’t under­stand irony and sarcasm and context in conver­sa­tions also has its pitfalls. At the time, and also because of my relation­ship (although I would have been allowed to), it would hardly have been possi­ble for me to meet Mia if I had won. This one fundrais­ing campaign was the first indirect contact I had with Mia, so to speak. Some time passed and I gradu­ally found the courage to comment on posts on Twitter/X as well. Her open manner and direct commu­ni­ca­tion made it easy for me to connect with her. I also visited Mia’s website from time to time because I was simply curious. But for a long time I could­n’t bring myself to do more than comment and take part in the fundrais­ing campaigns. Even if one or two fantasies often came up while looking at the website or X/Twitter.

This was followed by a very diffi­cult year in my private life, which triggered a very strong desire for change in me. If you know anything about autism, you may know how extreme the situa­tion has to be for an autis­tic person to feel the need for change. Even though I won’t go into this situa­tion in detail now, it ultimately helped me to find the courage to talk to Mia about meeting up. I more or less opened the door, as I was very unsure whether I, as an autis­tic person, could really be a suitable client. Autis­tic people tend to be perfec­tion­ists and I doubted very much whether I could really offer a perfect meeting. To get to know each other, we arranged a video call, which made it easier for me to get to know them at first.

I was incred­i­bly nervous, but Mia dealt with every single point that concerned me with a lot of patience and empathy. Little by little I felt more and more comfort­able, so for far too long I didn’t dare contact Mia for no reason. After the video call, I was amazed at how comfort­able I felt with Mia after my initial nervous­ness. A short time later, we agreed the details for a personal meeting. As there was still 1–2 weeks to go, I kept study­ing the “Begin­ners Guide” that Mia had published on her website shortly before­hand. Study­ing the tips and ideas as well as the “do’s” and “don’ts” helped me to bridge the time until the meeting without getting too fixated on the nervous­ness with tunnel vision.

Mia also offers various additional services, includ­ing a package through which she takes care of hotel bookings etc. — the so-called “Gentle­men’s Package”. The booking allowed me to concen­trate fully on the meeting and not have to deal with any other social contacts. I remem­ber as if it were yester­day how nervous I was when we first met in person outside the hotel. However, Mia’s warm and cheer­ful greet­ing ensured that the initial nervous­ness quickly subsided. It was a great relief that I was able to stay in the background during check-in and there­fore didn’t have to speak to the hotel staff.

Within a very short time, Mia managed to gradu­ally ease my inner tension. From the very begin­ning, I had the feeling that it was impor­tant to her to respond to me and my needs and to create an environ­ment of well-being at all times. The longer we spent time together, the more I was able to let go. To let the many thoughts in my head slowly fall silent. This is what makes Mia’s open, warm but also sensi­tive manner so special to me. I felt noticed and safe at all times. And so my worries that my autism could have a signif­i­cant negative impact on the meeting were allayed. Mia even made me feel safe enough for us to sit down in the hotel bar without me feeling overwhelmed. Through­out the evening, I always had the feeling that Mia knew exactly when it was time for patience, quiet, fun or even a bit of dirty talk. So I was able to just indulge in our time together. It was a wonder­ful evening for me and I didn’t regret it for a minute. We also kept in touch afterwards.

That’s how we ended up meeting up for an overnight date not too long after. There was a great atmos­phere right from the start on our second date. It felt as if the first date had only been a few days ago and we had known each other for a long time. It was a wonder­ful mixture of lots of laugh­ter, but also serious topics and breath­tak­ing close­ness. Despite her autism, Mia allows me to be close to her without hesita­tion. In every­day life, my autism means that I very rarely manage to deviate from routines, be sponta­neous or even switch off my thoughts. In Mia’s presence, however, I manage to do this extremely well and that really speaks volumes about how well she perceives the other person, under­stands their needs and responds to them.

Due to personal circum­stances, the distance to our third meeting was unfor­tu­nately somewhat greater. Never­the­less, we stayed in touch via Twitter etc. Mia is a wonder­ful person and actually has far too big a heart for this world. She always gives us all a little insight into her life. I also feel it’s almost a tradi­tion now to take part in her fundrais­ing activ­i­ties. The third meeting also felt famil­iar. We had a wonder­ful evening, which we started at the bar and ended in the movie theater with a variety of topics. Mia is an absolute master of seduc­tion, but she never disre­gards her counter­part and their personal needs.

Why am I writing these lines now? As an autis­tic person, you are often overwhelmed by the outside world and the people in it. However, autis­tic people also have a need for close­ness, inter­est­ing conver­sa­tions, shared laugh­ter or activ­i­ties. Close­ness to a woman is also an impor­tant aspect that autis­tic people without a relation­ship often do without completely. Both on a mental and physi­cal level. For a long time, I would­n’t have dared to contact Mia about a date, but now I know that it wasn’t neces­sary. In fact, it’s worth having the courage to approach Mia. Then nothing stands in the way of a breath­tak­ing time with a wonder­ful and beauti­ful woman.