It was time…
Finally a successful book that offers honest insights into a mysterious industry. Vanessa Eden’s debut work came out in 2013. It enables its readers to immerse themselves in an unvarnished truth … and this truth does not have to hide behind embellishments and make-up. Yes – it’s a wicked world … but is “wicked” the most appropriate word …?
For me – and also for Vanessa Eden – it is not. It is the fulfillment of fantasies, playing with eroticism and the influence on these men who can and want to afford an adventure with an escort lady. For this reason, I find the view of the industry from within particularly important.
»2,000 euros for a night?« Many people are probably asking … »But you can get sex much cheaper!« But that’s exactly what it’s all about. Men don’t just pay for sex, they pay for a strong, erotic and intelligent woman who is not ashamed of herself and who feels comfortable in her skin and with her job.
»To be an escort for the fun of eroticism and the excitement that the job brings with it; the pleasure of the tingling feeling before every new meeting, the sensuality and the fulfillment of your own sexual fantasies – all of that really exists.«
For me it really exists. Just like for many other escort ladies.
Being an escort out of passion – unimaginable for many.
Part of my life for me. So when I write about escorting, I also write about a part of myself that I don’t hide from and that I don’t have to hide. And here I see a like-minded person in Vanessa Eden.
I want to write this article today because I feel the need to dispel prejudices, to share my own view of this erotic work and to recommend Vanessa Eden’s book to anyone who is interested. All those who have prejudices … All those who want to know more about the industry and all those interested who have not dared to book an escort lady because they do not know what to expect.
Because they exist, these very women who have chosen this profession – or rather this calling. Chosen it on their own free will and out of love for eroticism.
Why do I write it as »Calling«? I don’t mean to say that my fate chose this path for me. Rather, it is more a matter of bringing the prerequisites with me, this special erotic charisma, which is not often found and which many particularly appreciate in me. I’m not talking about my body or sex itself. Because it takes more than just a beautiful, well-groomed, female body to be a successful escort lady.
With and against the wind
»Working as an escort lady has enriched my life incredibly.«
Such words are still met with incomprehension by many, because in addition to the positive aspects of work, one is still confronted with many clichés in the escort service. The women in the escort industry are seen as victims, they are pitied. Others see you as nymphomaniacs, with whom something is wrong and whose motivation is incomprehensible. I clearly reject this position.
»There can be no voluntary prostitution. It is always motivated by financial hardships.«
»Escort ladies are not allowed to say no to anything and have to be touched by everyone.«
»You have to overcome yourself for the job and let men humiliate you«…
None of this corresponds to reality and it certainly does not correspond to my personal experience and my own motivation.
But how do such clichés come about?
I see these clichés as being based on the fact that unfortunately many women still feel restricted in their sexuality by social norms. It is precisely these norms that do not allow women to live out their sexuality with changing partners. A woman who freely chooses the path as an escort and freely lives out her sexual desires on this path – this is still difficult for many to understand.
I have also had this experience. For a long time I was confronted with incomprehension and got the feeling that I shouldn’t talk about my work. I experienced defamation, prejudice and suspicion. I was lifted onto a pedestal and stared at with uncomprehending eyes because I am doing what I enjoy. I have now enough self-confidence to be able to say that I am an intelligent, self-determined, young and attractive woman … and still – or perhaps because of that – I am an escort lady.
Because I find my personal fulfillment in the escort and my work is an important part of my life.
My job gives me the opportunity to live out my sexuality, to fulfill my intimate desires and to live myself out. It offers me the variety I need.
Even if many cannot imagine this … I enjoy my work, the attention, the desire and being desired, the passion and above all the shared intimacy.
My job brings a lot with it, which almost everyone would like to see in their life.
Vanessa Eden and many other escort ladies are educated and confident women. With her, however, I am particularly enthusiastic that she speaks so openly about the topic and says very clearly: I prostitute myself and I am not ashamed of it. No, I even enjoy it! That’s why I don’t have to be pityed. But on the contrary. I love the erotic, I love the hotels and the restaurants, I like to be a lady and sometimes a slut. But above all, I am a woman who lives out her passion.
»A motivation for many women to join the escort service is to break out of everyday life and to have a change of sex. Get away from all the social values and plunge into a frowned upon adventure. To be a little slut, indecent and wicked. Living out adventure, lust and curiosity, discovering the most beautiful hotels and places, getting to know new people and having interesting conversations, all of this enriches the lives of these women.«
With this quote I would like to end my plea, because I could not describe the motives for my entry into the escort service better.