Vanessa Eden — Why Men Pay € 2000 for a Night
by Mia | 18/05/2020 | PILLOW TALK
It was time…
Finally a successful book that offers honest insights into a mysterious industry. Vanessa Eden’s debut work came out in 2013. She allows her readers to delve into an unvarnished truth… and that truth doesn’t need to hide behind embellishments and makeup. Yes — it’s a wicked world… but is “wicked” the most appropriate word…?
For me — and also for Vanessa Eden — it is not. It is the fulfillment of fantasies, playing with eroticism and the influence on those men who can and want to afford an adventure with an escort lady. For this reason, I find the view of the industry from the inside particularly important.
»2,000 euros for a night?« Many people are probably asking … »But you can get sex much cheaper!« But that’s what it’s all about. Men don’t just pay for sex, they pay for a strong, erotic and intelligent woman who is not ashamed and comfortable in her own skin and with her job.
»To be an escort for the fun of eroticism and the excitement that the job brings with it; the pleasure of the tingling feeling before every new meeting, the sensuality and the fulfillment of your own sexual fantasies — all of that really exists.«
For me it really is. Just like for many other escort ladies.
Being an escort out of passion — unimaginable for many.
For me a part of my life. So when I write about escort, I also write about a part of me that I don’t hide from and that I don’t have to hide either. And this is where I see a like-minded person in Vanessa Eden.
I would like to write this article today because I feel the need to clear up prejudices, to share my own view of this erotic work and to recommend Vanessa Eden’s book to everyone who is interested. All those who have prejudices… All those who want to know more about the industry and all those interested who have not yet dared to book an escort lady because they do not know what to expect.
Because they exist, these women who have chosen this profession – or rather this vocation. Choosing it of their own free will and for the love of eroticism.
Why do I write it as »Calling«? I don’t mean to say that fate chose this path for me. It’s much more important to me that I have the prerequisites, this special erotic charisma, which is not often found and which many appreciate in me. I’m not talking about my body or sex itself. Because it takes more than just a beautiful, well-groomed female body to be a successful escort lady.
With and against the wind
»Working as an escort lady has enriched my life incredibly.«
Such words are still met with incomprehension by many, because in addition to the positive aspects of the work, one is still confronted with many clichés in the escort service. The women in the escort industry are seen as victims, they are pitied. Others see you as nymphomaniacs with whom something can’t be right and whose motivation is unclear. I strongly disagree with this position.
»There can be no voluntary prostitution. It is always motivated by financial hardships.«
»Escort ladies are not allowed to say no to anything and have to be touched by everyone.«
»You have to overcome yourself for the job and let men humiliate you«…
None of this corresponds to reality and it certainly does not correspond to my personal experience and my own motivation.
But how do such clichés come about?
I see these clichés as being based on the fact that unfortunately many women still feel restricted in their sexuality by social norms. It is precisely these norms that do not allow women to live out their sexuality with changing partners. A woman who freely chooses the path as an escort and freely lives out her sexual desires in this way — that is still difficult for many to understand.
I too have had these experiences. I was faced with a lack of understanding for a long time and got the feeling that I shouldn’t talk about my work. I experienced backbiting, prejudice and suspicion. I was lifted onto a pedestal and stared at with blank eyes for doing what I enjoy. I now have enough self-confidence to be able to say that I am an intelligent, self-determined, young and attractive woman… and despite this — or precisely because of this — I am an escort lady.
Because I find my personal fulfillment in the escort and my work is an important part of my life.
My job gives me the opportunity to live out my sexuality, to fulfill my intimate desires and to express myself. It gives me the variety I need.
Even if many cannot imagine this … I enjoy my work, the attention, the desire and being desired, the passion and above all the shared intimacy.
My job brings a lot with it, which almost everyone would like to see in their life.
Vanessa Eden and many other escort ladies are educated and self-confident women. But I’m particularly impressed by the fact that she talks so openly about the subject and says very clearly: I’m a prostitute and I’m not a bit ashamed of it. No, I even enjoy it! That’s why you don’t have to feel sorry for me. But on the contrary. I love eroticism, I love hotels and restaurants, I like being a lady and I like being a bitch. But above all, I am a woman who lives out her passion.
»A motivation for many women to enter the escort service is to break out of everyday life and have a sexual change. Get away from all the social values and plunge into a frowned upon adventure. Being a bit of a slut, naughty and wicked. In doing so, live out adventure, desire and curiosity, discover the most beautiful hotels and places, meet new people and have interesting conversations, all this enriches the lives of these women.«
With this quote I would like to end my plea, because I could not describe the motives for my entry into the escort service better.